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2018-06-17 [My diary]

A senior colleague just after I started my business career said "You should heard any advice which points out your improvement point. People doesn't say such kind of advice to you when you're older because people give up on you."
I didn't understand her word fully

I thought when someone makes a mistake in business, his or her boss should takes care of the mistake.
If the mistake derives from him or her, the boss should advice to him or her, I thought.
Actually, I think as so.

Now I became older. I think her word isn't right in the following point.
  • Her "advice" includes criticism.
  • People including my boss said advice to me if I have a mistake. They say advice as asking nicely.
  • People have right and responsibility to think whether advice is helpful and decide whether they accept the advice. I mean, not all advice is reasonable. we should accept advice as our own risk. When we find advice is harmful, we should ignore or reject the advice.

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Curse word [My diary]

About ten years ago, I went to several workshops and counseling service because I suffered for my career.
One day, I met a career counselor.

I confessed my worry about career to him. During my confession, I said "My senior colleague said you have potential to work. So, I think I can do good work when I get chance."
"Potential, Ha!". He scoffed at me.
"You've worked for several years. But, you can't explain actual work experience. You're a fool."

I remember his word even though I haven't met him for about ten years. His word kept distressing me until recently. His word means "You don't have enough career, skill and experience even though you works for years." So, his word blamed me as I don't do enough work.

Recently, I told someone about his word. I said "Someone says I have potential. But, a person said you're a fool because you use potential not actual experience to explain your skill."
"Ha, his is actual fool person." She laughed. At that moment, my feeling eased.

I realized his word cursed me. Her laugh broke my curse.



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